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Celebration For Vow Renewal
Q:
When
my husband and I got married many years ago, we had a very small
ceremony in the home of the minister who preformed it. We brought
along two of our best friends and their spouses as our witnesses.
Three years from now we will be married for 30 years. Would it be
silly to even consider a church wedding to renew our vows with
family, friends and all the trimmings?
Wendy
A:
Silly?
Not at all. This is a wonderful idea. Give yourselves the
celebration you were not able to have all those years ago. You
deserve it! Surround yourselves with friends and family to celebrate
those thirty wonderful years together. Do it up exactly as you want
it - a breathtaking dress, beautiful flowers, formal invitations, a
tiered cake with keepsake anniversary cake top, champagne glasses
engraved with your names and the dates, dinner, dancing, speeches,
toasts, hire a photographer, even rent a limo if your like. Do it in
the way that most makes you happy. Make your wish list now, start
planning, and have the time of your life!
Today
many couples, even those who were fortunate enough to have the
lavish weddings of their dreams, are marking their anniversaries in
grand style by renewing their vows and planning formal celebrations.
And in this day and age where often the wedding cake outlasts the
marriage itself, a lasting union is much to be proud of and is well
deserving of being celebrated in style. Congratulations and many more
years of happiness to you!
Telling
Guests to Leave Tag-Alongs at Home
Q:
We
have found the perfect wedding reception site. We only have room for
150 guests maximum. Family members are not the problem, friends are.
How do we word our wedding invitation and/or response card to ask
them to limit their guests to one person?
Thanks
for your help,
Adrienne
A: In
accordance with proper etiquette, no notation to this effect should
be made on the invitation. However, you can call in the help of close
friends and family to help spread the word that you are extremely
limited on space, and therefore it is important that your invited
guests each limit their guests to just one.
According
to etiquette, an invitation is only intended for those to whom it is
addressed. Therefore, you will either list the names of your all of
your intended guests from every household on the inner envelope, or
where appropriate you can do the following: Mary and Guest.
Hopefully
your guests will have a proper understanding of the correct guest
etiquette to know that this means that they are only to bring one
guest. The truth is, however, that in this day and age, many people
are NOT up on their etiquette. Our society no longer puts a priority
on teaching the rules of etiquette, and so it is understandable that
many people are prone to unintentional social blunders. Take special
note of my use of the word unintentional.
Be patient and kind with guests who err in this area - I can
personally guarantee that most mean absolutely no harm, and therefore
are deserving of your tolerance.
Should
an invited guest return a response card indicating that they wish to
bring more than one guest, you have the option of calling them to
graciously and politely say, "I am so very sorry, but due to
space limitations we are just not able to accommodate more than one
guest per person. I do hope that you will understand".
This
is what is considered to be the 'proper' way of handling the
situation you have described.
Bridal
Glove Etiquette
Q:
I'm planning on
wearing elbow-length gloves with my dress. What is the easiest way to
do the rings while wearing gloves. I'd rather not take them on and
off. I know that I'm supposed to take them off when in the receiving
line right? Sincerely, Kelly S.
A:
What
is recommended in the case of the bride who is wearing gloves is to
carefully undo one of the seams on the ring finger of the glove; you
can then simply slip your finger out of the glove when the time comes
to exchange rings. Some bridal salons sell gloves which already have
an opening in the ring finger,. however, it is certainly a simple
enough matter to create an opening as I have described.
And
yes, you are absolutely correct, gloves should never be worn in the
receiving line.
Linda
Kevich is the creator and editor of SuperWeddings.com. She has been a
professional wedding consultant for the past ten years, and now
teaches the business of wedding consulting through a home
study program she has developed. Have a
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